StyleLife Challege Day 4

From Rules of the Game: Master the Game in 30 Days by Neil Strauss.

Mission 1: Hit the Showers

Clean. Shave. Tweeze. Done

Repeat affirmation in mirror. Done. AWESOME affirmation for PUAs and PUMAs. Funny how network marketing gurus have taught to look in the mirror and do affirmations, too, and yet I never did it. Too much pride.

Mission 2: Ask an Expert

Ask three women to recommend a cool local clothing store that carries menswear. The mission doesn't say specifically, but I assume these are supposed to be strangers.

I thought about how I could apply this and decided that at my basketball game today I would ask for shoe recommendations. Of course, if I want it to be strangers, it couldn't be people on my own team.

After the game I did talk to one person from the other team and we had a fairly long discussion about where to go, what to look for, etc. Score!

The next person (on the other team) I approached with "Do you play a musical instrument?" I thought I recognized her as someone I had met before, and we spent some time trying to place it (which we did). That conversation segued into a conversation about looking like other people we know.

Due to scheduling of the court, everyone left quickly and I didn't have another opportunity.

That night my family went out to dinner. When dinner was about over, I noticed that behind me was another couple that, due to a strange placement of the tables, was sitting unusally close to me. I turned around and said, "Gosh, I didn't know you were sitting so close--we could have been chatting this whole time!" They laughed and I turned around. Later I turned and asked them if they were going to see a movie (which was right next door). They said they had already seen one, and I got a movie recommendation! :o)

This challenge was very easy for me--I have never had a hard time meeting strangers. In fact, one of my best friends I met in a line in college. I just turned around and started talking. So my problem is not meeting people, but "monetizing" the conversation. So we'll see what future challenges bring.

Oh, and one more thing. I notice in retrospect that during the first two approaches (with players from the other time), I talked very fast--like I was apologetic for interrupting and didn't want to bother them. A demonstration of lower value! I will definitely work on this.

Mission 3: Stand Up Straight

Wall exercise. Video. Floor exercise. Done, done, and done. These are great exercises for me, as I do have a tendency to slouch--I'm kind of big boned and I have spent a lifetime trying to be smaller in ever way possible--in weight, posture, and social interactions! Good stuff.